Dear Readers,
I am struggling to write this message as I can’t stop crying because of the pain and hate my heart feels at the same time.
This is for people who judge a person when they fall into the hands of criminals.
A romance scam is a hideous, heartbreaking, and destructive crime. As victims, you feel like you are stupid, feel ashamed, and don’t want people to know about this ordeal in your lives.
You have no idea how hard and painful it is to find out that the person who once promised you to love you forever is the same person who destroyed your dreams, and your inner feelings and most of all took your money. The money you never thought you’d ever see again.
It is outrageous how someone thinks that we willingly give a stranger all our savings and more. That we fall into this because we are gullible.
You don’t understand that you do it because someone promised to love you forever and made plans with you. They try all the tricks to deceive you. They say all the right things at the right moment.
These people are well-trained and intelligent individuals. They know how to make you feel like you are the only woman in the entire world. They wake you up with a wonderful, charming piece of poetry that perhaps they take from a poetry book. But in the fantasy life that they create for you, you feel that those words are coming from the bottom of their hearts. Before you go to sleep, they text you the most amazing, mesmerising message full of love and a wonderful future full of unimaginable adventures.
If you think that this type of crime can’t happen to you, you are so wrong.
If you are vulnerable when they find you, you fall into their game, whether you are educated or not. You foolishly fall for their kind and lovely promises.
I was one of those ones judging these women falling for someone they hadn’t seen or met, and yet here I am giving testimony of this hideous situation and crime.
Here I am with a broken soul trying to recover my love for life and my confidence.
Here I am trying to mend my broken heart and mourn the loss of my money, the loss of a love that existed only in my head. The loss of my dignity and mental health. The loss of trusting someone who just played with my feelings.
How long is going to take to grieve all these losses?
I don’t know, but in the meantime, I wish more people would feel empathy and be more supportive of victims of romance scams.
I wish law enforcement could or would do something about it and help. It will help the victims’ recovery if they listen to the stories and work on these cases.
I wish I had never fallen for this fake persona, but instead of looking for answers, I will try to make a difference in my own way to recover my sanity.
I will spread the word and educate people with financial debt, but with a broken heart and soul that will take a long time to piece together.
With love to these romance-scammed victims mourning their losses.
MD
